TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER - HE'S TOO CLOSE TO HER

Good day ladies. How are you doing? As usual, I'll be sharing a fictional account of some true life stories for deliberation.

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Sharon and Leo have been in a relationship for 5 years. Leo finally asked Sharon to marry him 6 months ago. They are currently planning the wedding.

Leo is Sharon's dream man. She has prayed about the relationship and she has peace about the relationship generally. She has an issue, though, with how close Leo is to Amelia, his colleague in the office. From what she gathered, they are practically inseparable in the office. They spend all their spare time together. They are team mates. A few times that Sharon visited Leo in the office, Amelia was with them the whole time.

Sharon has told Leo about her discomfort with his relationship with Amelia. Leo thinks she's just being possessive and he usually changes the topic at such times.

 

Sharon will like to know:

1. If her concerns are valid.

2. If so, is that enough reason to break off her engagement to Leo?

3. If not, is there anything she can do about their unusual closeness?

4. Can she talk to Amelia about her concerns?

5. If yes, can you help with tips on how to initiate the conversation?

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER - DEALING WITH EXES

Good day ladies. How are you doing? As usual, I'll be sharing a fictional account of some true life stories for deliberation.

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Seun and Ola have been courting for 3 years and are making plans to get married. Before Seun met Ola, all the guys she dated are very intelligent, current and business savvy but they are unbelievers.  She loves these attributes but the Lord led her to marry Ola, who is a believer.

 

Her issue is that Ola is not so business savvy; he has missed SEVERAL business opportunities in the 3 years she has known him. The first time, she made a lot of fuss about it and it put a strain on their relationship. Subsequently, she pretends not to notice just to keep the peace.

 

Kunle, one of her exes, has approached Seun with a business deal. He is seeing someone else and they've been platonic friends for about 6 years now without Kunle making advances. She doesn't have romantic feelings for him anymore as well. She is seriously contemplating doing business with him as the potential income from the business deal is sizeable.

 

1. Can she proceed with the deal with Kunle?

2. If yes, what measures can she put in place to assure Ola that her deal with Kunle is STRICTLY BUSINESS?

3. If no, is it fair for her to try to bring Ola up to speed and do the business with him instead?

4. Are there tips she can try out to make Ola become savvy like some of her exes?

5. Will the same rules apply if Ola was the one with an ex who wants to have a STRICTLY BUSINESS deal with him? Will Seun be justified to ask for assurance that they won't cross boundaries?

6. Will the response be different if Seun and Ola were married? If yes, what's the difference?

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER - WHEN THE LADY EARNS MORE

Good day ladies. How are you doing? As usual, I'll be sharing a fictional account of some true life stories for deliberation.

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Itunu has been praying and trusting God for a future partner since she was 18. She is now 35 years old. She has a lot of stories to tell about the different insults she has been subjected to as a matured single woman.

Segun is a brother in church. He is in the same department as Itunu and has proposed to her. He is good looking. He is friendly and courteous. He pays attention to Itunu's emotional and spiritual needs. He is always ready to listen her.  However, he is not gainfully employed and does not possess many marketable skills. Itunu's concern is that if they get married, she will be the one bearing the financial burden in the family and that there is a potential for that to eventually cause marital problems.

 

1. Are Itunu's fears unfounded?

2. If yes, how can a woman manage a union where she earns more than her husband so that the man does not feel emasculated?

3. Is it okay for a woman to perpetually bear the financial burden of a family? Is there a way she can motivate/encourage the man to improve his earning potential?

4. In a case where the woman has been bearing the financial responsibility and after the man begins to earn more income, he refuses to be more financially involved, what can the godly woman do?

 

Please share your views and/or scriptural references. 

HOUSEWORK

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER

HOUSEWORK

Good day ladies. How are you doing?

I stumbled on this statement as I searched for today’s discussion topic. I think it’s worth talking about.

“Having a husband creates an extra 7 hours a week of housework for women, while a wife saves a man an hour of housework per week, according to a University of Michigan study of a nationally representative sample of US families.”

Seriously? Why will any lady sign up WILLINGLY (and even fast and pray) for 7 extra hours of housework per week. The statistic suggests to me that ladies put in 6 extra hours of housework that the man would have left undone if he was alone.  This makes me wonder if women just LOVE  housework, lol.

Seriously, can we talk about housework? How involved should a man be in housework? Which housework is in and which is out? How much of a boyfriend/fiancé’s housework should a lady get herself involved in? What options are available to a lady whose husband won’t lift a finger to help around the house?

Please share your views and experiences. You can also leave us a comment on the blog using the link below.