This week on Deborah's Market Square, we started talking about Virginity. Here are some of the comments from our sisters. We'll appreciate your views on this sensitive topic.
"Sorry, but a lot of religious girls are verrrrry naïve. They think that virginity will guarantee them good husbands, because their pastor said something about "how their choice to be chaste, will be honoured". Obviously, that is bunkum - which a lot of them only discover after they've already married monsters.
And as good church girls, they continue praying, treating STIs, hiding bruises, becoming bitter and praying some more.
If you like, spend 20hours a day in church, if you don't use your brain to decide for yourself what you really want, you'll end up with a man that'll make you regret marrying him"
"Hmmm. The issue of marital choices is quite complex. I believe in staying sexually pure before and after marriage. It honors God. However, it does not guarantee a "good" husband (or wife). That part is one of the lies we were told. Godly people still have challenges...Virginity before marriage is honorable. However, it will not guarantee a good marriage.
In the Parable of the Ten Virgins, we are told that there are wise and foolish virgins. We need to tell ourselves home truths.
"Even when you hear some women pray, it's "I got married as a virgin. Why don't I have a child? But so-and-so had abortions and she's now happily married with twins!" And I just wonder, "What miracle did you think was lying in your hymen? Face your own problem! The ten virgins story is an analogy for a lot of things, none of them to do with a woman's hymen"
"I thought that way when I had delays in conception. My mental deliverance came when I read a Christian article online that was supposed to be encouraging me and the author went there. I was like 'huh'. So, God is not obligated to give me a child because I waited? Really?"
"Many religious people are naïve. And arrogant. It's arrogant to think that you're owed a virgin, just because you're one. Like I say, "Every prostitute was a virgin, too"
"However, that does not nullify the fact that sexual purity (not just the presence of a hymen) honors God. And sexual purity should continue after vows are exchanged. Stay true to your vows...."
Interesting conversation, right? So, tell us, what are your thoughts on #Virginity and #Sexual Purity?
