TGD Career Corner - Developing Career/Business Goals

Good day ladies. How are you doing?

Today we will be addressing two topics at once. It's my way of apologizing for not posting for 2 weeks in a row. Please pardon me.

 

Actually the purpose and processes involved for developing career  and business goals are similar. I'll just talk about both at once.

 

Your career/business goals should guide your career/business choices. There is a reason why football pitches have goal posts. If there were no goal posts, it will be difficult, if not impossible, to determine who won a football match. The goal post thus guides the thoughts and actions of the footballers and their coaches. Everything a footballer and a coach does should guide them towards getting the ball into their opponents' goal post and should keep their opponents and misguided team members from getting the ball AWAY from their own goal post.

 

As we are believers, the first place to develop career/business goals is from the Throne Room of Grace. Ask God why He's still keeping you here. Any career/business goal that is not related to why you're on earth is an exercise in futility. If you are already on a career/business path that YOU or someone else chose for you, it's time to pause and spend some time talking to God about it and take notes. He'll tell you...

 

After you've reconciled your career/business path/goals with your eternal purpose, there are tips that will help you make the career/business goals Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic (relatively though) and Time-bound (S.M.A.R.T). I'll share some and I'll rely on others, including you sis, to tell us the rest.

 

1. Express your career/business goals POSITIVELY. State what should happen, not what shouldn't.

 

2. Include a target date/month/year for achieving the goals. Let the Holy Spirit guide you on the timing. Many people have found themselves in trouble because they pursued God's agenda using THEIR own timing...It took Jesus Christ 30 years to prepare for a 3 year ministry...

3. Let the Holy Spirit lead you with respect to setting priorities. Some priorities will jump out as one goal may precede another. Others are not so obvious.

 

4. Break the goals down into small achievable tasks. That way, it's easy to get some motivation to continue on the journey from the sense of accomplishment derived from completing daily tasks. Your true motivation should come from God.

 

5. Write your career /business goals down and keep them visible. You can post them on your fridge, save on your phone etc

 

6. Review your career goals/business plan periodically.

 

Please share your views and experiences on Developing Career/Business Goals. Scriptural references are welcome.

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER - BLENDED FAMILIES

Good day ladies. How are you doing? I have a fictional account of a true life story I'll like us to deliberate on.

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Sharon has been praying for a life partner. Suitor after suitor has come but her pastor has told her that they are not the ones for her. Finally, Kingsley comes along and she talks to her pastor about him. Kingsley is a widower with grown kids. He claims that he heard that God tell him that Sharon is his wife. Sharon's pastor also confirmed that Kingsley is the "One".

 

Sharon does not mind being married to Kingsley but her challenge is with his children. She can't honestly love them as her own. She feels they'll always compete with her for Kingsley's affection. Already, there is a very close bond between Kingsley and one of his daughters, Kate.

 

Can we talk about blended families? A blended family is one where one or both of the spouses have children from another relationship (previous or extra-marital).

 

1. Is it okay to refuse to marry a man because he is a widower?

2. If one chooses to marry a widower, what kind of questions should she ask before exchanging vows?

3. How should a lady deal with her step-children, particularly the ones that are really close to the father? Please share tips that can help manage these relationships 4. How should one relate with her stepmum? Please share tips that can help manage this kind of relationship.

 

Please share your views, experiences and even scriptural references.

YOUR MARRIAGE OR YOUR HEALTH?

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER

 

Good day ladies. How are you doing today?

As usual, I have a fictional account of a true life story for us to deliberate on.

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Imelda is in a dilemma. Her sister, Sylvia, told her about a health challenge that she is dealing with that requires surgery. The surgery is a bit expensive. Sylvia told Imelda that her husband, Steve, told Sylvia that instead of spending money on the surgery, she should use some herbs to manage the symptoms of the health challenge.

 

Imelda checked with some of her friends that are medical practitioners and was advised that the use of the herbs may compound Sylvia’s health challenge. Sylvia has let Imelda know that she personally would have preferred to go ahead with the surgery, if she could afford it but she doesn’t want to cause frictions in her marriage as Steve was the one that suggested that she use the herbs.

Imelda and Steve are not on good terms as she didn’t quite approve of Sylvia’s decision to marry Steve. Imelda has kept her distance since and therefore is not close enough to Steve to discuss with him. She doesn’t want to meddle in Sylvia’s marriage but she is concerned about Sylvia’s health. She doesn’t believe Steve is looking out for Sylvia’s best interests.

How can Imelda help Sylvia get medical help without meddling in her marriage? Should a wife defer to her husband’s decisions when it concerns her health and well-being? Is it out of line for Sylvia to find a means of having the surgery, in spite of Steve’s suggestion that she manages the condition with herbs that may have dangerous effects?

 

Please share your views, experiences and even scriptural references.

Infidelity Questions

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER

Good day ladies. How are you doing today?

As usual, I have a fictional account of a true life story for us to deliberate on.

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Ijeoma and Chidi have been married for 15 years. In those years, Chidi has been a loving and caring husband and father to their 3 children.

One day, Ijeoma received a phone call from her trusted friend, Nkechi, who told her that she saw Chidi going into a hotel with a lady. Nkechi's description of the lady fit the profile of Chidi's co-worker, Jane.

Ijeoma was uneasy with the way Jane kept showing up in Chidi's conversations lately and now Nkechi was on the phone telling her that she saw them going into a hotel. Nkechi suggested that Ijeoma should come to the hotel and confront them.

My questions

1. Should Ijeoma heed Nkechi's advice and go to the hotel for the confrontation? If yes, how should she address the issue if she truly finds Chidi with Jane in the hotel?

2. If not, how should she address the issue? Should she ignore Nkechi and believe that Chidi isn't cheating or should she confront him?

3. If she chooses to confront him, can you recommend tips that can make the confrontation effective?

4. If she confirms that he is truly cheating, what should her next steps be?

5. What would you do if you discovered that your close friend's husband may be cheating? Will you let her know your concern? Or will you keep it to yourself?

6. Will you expect a close friend to share such an information about your husband with you?

7. Are there questions that can be asked or signs to look out for during courtship that can help identify potential cheats? Or is it okay to expect one's husband to cheat as some believe that all men cheat?

 

I admit that this is a difficult topic to address. Unfortunately, this is the reality a couple of our sisters are living with.

Please share your views, experiences and even scriptural references.