Infidelity Questions

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER

Good day ladies. How are you doing today?

As usual, I have a fictional account of a true life story for us to deliberate on.

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Ijeoma and Chidi have been married for 15 years. In those years, Chidi has been a loving and caring husband and father to their 3 children.

One day, Ijeoma received a phone call from her trusted friend, Nkechi, who told her that she saw Chidi going into a hotel with a lady. Nkechi's description of the lady fit the profile of Chidi's co-worker, Jane.

Ijeoma was uneasy with the way Jane kept showing up in Chidi's conversations lately and now Nkechi was on the phone telling her that she saw them going into a hotel. Nkechi suggested that Ijeoma should come to the hotel and confront them.

My questions

1. Should Ijeoma heed Nkechi's advice and go to the hotel for the confrontation? If yes, how should she address the issue if she truly finds Chidi with Jane in the hotel?

2. If not, how should she address the issue? Should she ignore Nkechi and believe that Chidi isn't cheating or should she confront him?

3. If she chooses to confront him, can you recommend tips that can make the confrontation effective?

4. If she confirms that he is truly cheating, what should her next steps be?

5. What would you do if you discovered that your close friend's husband may be cheating? Will you let her know your concern? Or will you keep it to yourself?

6. Will you expect a close friend to share such an information about your husband with you?

7. Are there questions that can be asked or signs to look out for during courtship that can help identify potential cheats? Or is it okay to expect one's husband to cheat as some believe that all men cheat?

 

I admit that this is a difficult topic to address. Unfortunately, this is the reality a couple of our sisters are living with.

Please share your views, experiences and even scriptural references.