TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER - SPIRITUAL INCOMPATIBILITY

Good day ladies. How are you doing? As usual, I'll be sharing a fictional account of a true life story for deliberation.

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Gbemi had been praying for a life partner since forever. God had given her signs of "he that was to come". She met Soji when she went for a professional seminar. He was one of the facilitators. They shared the same table during lunch and got friendly. She noticed that there was no ring on his finger. They exchanged numbers that day and Soji kept in touch.

 

Soon, they started talking every day and before long, they started meeting for lunch dates. The signs Gbemi saw of "he that was to come" were all present in Soji. After two years, he proposed and they eventually got married.

 

After a few months, they started having challenges with "doctrinal differences". They prays differently (one of them believes in chasing demons/enemies with prayers while the other believes in loving even enemies); one believes that only certain postures were permitted while praying. One believes in sowing anything/everything as money seeds to "secure your future" while the other believes in making solid financial plans as a means of "securing your future".

 

They both attend Gbemi's church but Soji does not genuinely believe all the doctrines in Gbemi's church. He speaks like them when he's with church members but he acts differently. Gbemi believes he is being hypocritical. The friction as a result of frequent disagreements is taking its toll on the marriage. Gbemi believes the marriage is getting in the way of her spiritual growth and is feeling very frustrated. Some counsellors have diagnosed their condition as "spiritual incompatibility".

 

My questions are

1. Is there really such a thing as "spiritual incompatibility"?

2. If yes, how can one identify it before saying "I do"?

3. Is there a way to "treat" the condition and still say "I do" to the same person?

4.  Is there a way to "treat" the condition after saying "I do" without parting ways with one's partner? (i.e, is there hope for Soji and Gbemi to still have a blissful marriage?) 5. If the answer to #4 is yes, what can they do?

 

Please share your views and/or scriptural references.