Dealing With A Difficult Boss Or Customer

TGD CAREER CORNER
28/02/2015

Good morning ladies. How are you doing? How is the weekend going? I trust that the day is going well.
Today's career discussion topic is
- Dealing with a difficult boss/customer

I have had the pleasure of working with fantastic as well as difficult bosses. I've had more fantastic bosses than difficult bosses, so dealing with a difficult boss was a rude shock for me. Dealing with difficult customers is a more familiar turf for me, though I've come across people recently who appear to be more difficult than those I've dealt with in the past.

One way of dealing with a difficult boss is to ask him/her to be your mentor. It'll probably force them to have more discussions and become more open-minded about you.

I'm sure many of us have tips and experiences that are relevant to this discussion. Please share your views and experiences on this.

Determining Sexual Compatibility

TGD Relationship Corner

Good day ladies. How are we doing? We trust that all is well.

I came across a post on a page in the course of the week that I believe is worth discussing here. The lady in the post claimed that she found out after getting married that her husband's penis is not large enough and therefore does not satisfy here. As we have both single and married ladies here, I will not ask for a solution to the lady's question (besides she is not hear to read it).

One of the comments on the post basically said that this is one reason why it is wise to "test drive" (i.e. to engage in pre-marital sex). We know that pre-marital sex is not permitted according to the Bible that should guide our conduct as Christian women.

My question then is this - How can Christians determine sexual compatibility during courtship without engaging in pre-marital sex?

Please share your views and experiences. Scriptural references, if any, are very welcome.

Enjoy your day.

Improve Your Productivity

TGD CAREER CORNER
Good morning ladies. How are you doing? How is the weekend going? I trust that the day is going well.
Today's career tip is
- Work on improving your productivity rather than just putting in long hours.

Can we discuss ways of improving our productivity on the job or even in our businesses?

Meanwhile, I read in a post recently that people don't like employing Christians because they use company time to do other things, e.g. Reading christian books, typing their church membership database etc. I suppose that's what some people use some of the long hours to do? Can we address how to balance our spiritual well-being with our job requirements?

Please share your views and experiences on this.

Important Questions To Discuss With Him

TGD Relationship Corner

Good day sisters. How are you doing?

Last week, one of our sisters buzzed me and we had an interesting time chatting about what I'm about to share (I have her permission to share).

Her questions are below.
1. What can I discuss with my boyfriend in preparation for marriage? What are the pertinent questions to ask? I live in terror of missing something crucial only to find out after tying the knot?
2. Must I know everything about his family before we get married? Must I know every uncle or aunt?
3. What about house chores? Is it reasonable to expect him to pitch in? What if he doesn't want to share house chores? What if he is uncomfortable with hiring a help?

Please share your views and experiences. Scriptural references are welcome.

WHAT SHOULD BE THE DRIVER: PAY or PASSION?

TGD CAREER CORNER
Good day ladies. I hope you are enjoying the weekend,plus the "love in the air mode" Last week,we talked about learning;I mean maximum learning and continuous learning in our chosen career path or business,and ...
...TODAY'S CAREER TIP is WHAT SHOULD BE THE DRIVER: PAY or PASSION?
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So sisters,for those of us working already,what informed your choice of job-the take home pack or the joy you derive on the job. We would like to hear from you.
For those of us that are yet to be on a job,what would be your deciding factor;the pay or the passion?
Why did you resign your banking job to start a business of your own?
Let's rub minds together sisters,someone needs to learn.
We are waiting!!! Happy Valentine.

Good Girl, Bad Boy

Good day ladies. How are you doing?

I watched a movie this past weekend that inspired this post - Preacher's Kid. You should see it sometime. Generally, it's the modern day prodigal son story. There sure are many lessons to learn. I'll like us to explore one of them.

The Preacher's Kid, raised to be prim and proper, left home against her father's wishes to join a supposedly roadshow primarily because of a guy, that was a known bad guy. He was fine, suave and at some point even asked her to join him in church. He was all over her and he gently began to suggest that she do things that weren't too bad but not too good either. For example, under the guise of helping her work on her lines, he lured her to drink a little wine (alchoholic). She protested and he quoted scriptures to justify it. Then after a few suggestions here and there, she was actually the one that willingly lost her virginity to him. Then she moved in with him. Then she started running his errands with the time she was supposed to be spending working on important stuff. Then he hit her the first time and gave the excuse that he was facing pressure at work. Then he started breaking her down emotionally. That part really got me. For example, he told her in front of his friends that the hair she just made looked terrible. After she left, one of his friends asked why he did that. He told his friend that he was "breaking her down". Apparently, the way it works is that the guy starts out being so great with the girl, then at some point he starts with some mild emotional and verbal abuse. The lady then begins to try harder to win him back. And then it goes on and on even to the point of physical abuse. You need to see the movie to see how she found her way home, just like the prodigal son.

I went through all that just to ask some questions.

1. How do you know if it is okay to go ahead to date/court a man? I know some will say "pray". My question is more like after praying, how do you know what God is saying?

2. Assuming a sister has agreed to date/court a man without praying about it, what can she do?

3. What can a lady that finds herself in an abusive relationship, sometimes after she has 'heard' from God (many times through a man of God) do?

4. Some people tell you that before agreeing to marry a man, check his "fruits". How does that work in real life?

 

Please share your views and experiences. Scriptural references are welcome.

Learn More

07/02/2015
Today's Career Tip
Learn as much as you can about your chosen career or business. Take advantage of opportunities to learn. The more well-rounded you are in your field, the more effective you will be at work and the more attractive you will be to prospective employers.

Some organizatons provide "world-class" training while others expect you to learn all you need to know by yourself. I have come to learn that it is best to take responsibility for how and what you learn. If you work for a supportive organization, that's great. However, you shouldn't let your brain go to sleep. If you work for a not so supportive organization, brace up and look around for opportunities that abound. If you're self-employed, as you look out for business opportunities, ensure you're also looking out for learning opportunities. The internet is a great source of information at minimal costs. I like to say "Google is your friend". Take some time out periodically to learn more about your career or business.

Please share your views and experiences on learning more. Scriptural references are welcome. You can also leave us a comment on the blog using the link below.

The Will of God

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER

04/02/2015

Good day ladies. How are you doing? I trust that the day is going well.

 

Ifeoma took our advice and has asked Ekene to define the relationship. Ekene says he likes her and just wants to see how things will go. She has also started praying specifically about her relationship with Ekene. How does she know the will of God concerning the relationship? Are there signs she ought to look out for?

Meanwhile, she got talking with her colleague, Mary, who confided in her that her husband's sister (Grace) that lives with them is giving her serious challenges. Grace doesn't help at all around the house. She comes in late and chooses times when Mary is talking with her husband to butt in.

What can Mary do about her challenges with Grace?

 

Please share your views, experiences and even scriptural references.