Good Girl, Bad Boy

Good day ladies. How are you doing?

I watched a movie this past weekend that inspired this post - Preacher's Kid. You should see it sometime. Generally, it's the modern day prodigal son story. There sure are many lessons to learn. I'll like us to explore one of them.

The Preacher's Kid, raised to be prim and proper, left home against her father's wishes to join a supposedly roadshow primarily because of a guy, that was a known bad guy. He was fine, suave and at some point even asked her to join him in church. He was all over her and he gently began to suggest that she do things that weren't too bad but not too good either. For example, under the guise of helping her work on her lines, he lured her to drink a little wine (alchoholic). She protested and he quoted scriptures to justify it. Then after a few suggestions here and there, she was actually the one that willingly lost her virginity to him. Then she moved in with him. Then she started running his errands with the time she was supposed to be spending working on important stuff. Then he hit her the first time and gave the excuse that he was facing pressure at work. Then he started breaking her down emotionally. That part really got me. For example, he told her in front of his friends that the hair she just made looked terrible. After she left, one of his friends asked why he did that. He told his friend that he was "breaking her down". Apparently, the way it works is that the guy starts out being so great with the girl, then at some point he starts with some mild emotional and verbal abuse. The lady then begins to try harder to win him back. And then it goes on and on even to the point of physical abuse. You need to see the movie to see how she found her way home, just like the prodigal son.

I went through all that just to ask some questions.

1. How do you know if it is okay to go ahead to date/court a man? I know some will say "pray". My question is more like after praying, how do you know what God is saying?

2. Assuming a sister has agreed to date/court a man without praying about it, what can she do?

3. What can a lady that finds herself in an abusive relationship, sometimes after she has 'heard' from God (many times through a man of God) do?

4. Some people tell you that before agreeing to marry a man, check his "fruits". How does that work in real life?

 

Please share your views and experiences. Scriptural references are welcome.