FAMILY TRADITION

TGD RELATIONSHIP CORNER

 

Good day ladies. How are you doing? I have a fictional account of a true life story I'll like us to deliberate on.

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Sister Stella and Brother John were already making wedding preparations after a proper courtship. Marriage classes were already completed; the wedding date was already fixed and everything was in top condition.

 

During one of their wedding related discussions, Brother John's dad said something to Sister Stella's mum about their family tradition forbidding court marriages. Mummy wasn't sure what she heard so she spoke with Sister Stella about it. Sister Stella brought it up with Brother John and he confirmed it.

 

In the course of the courtship, Brother John didn't mention this tradition at all. Sister Stella and her people have tried to convince Brother John's people about ditching this 'tradition' but they are holding on tenaciously to their family tradition.

 

Can we address the following questions?

 

1. At what point during courtship should the discussion about family traditions be addressed? Is there a recommended way to bring up such a discussion?

 

2. Which ceremonies make a union legal? Paying of bride price? 'Court' wedding? Church wedding?

 

3. When there is a strong conflict of opinions during courtship, is a woman expected to submit to her husband-to-be?

 

Please share your views, experiences and even scriptural references. You can also leave your comment on the blog.