Good day.
We had a very interesting discussion on Deborah's Market Square about divorce last week. The discussion will be summarized in 7 parts. Please share your thoughts on any of the issues raised.
A sister shared about a twice divorced man who blamed his mother and all the women in his life for all his woes. And the divorce discussion started.
“So no one should marry divorced men, right? Lol”
“Big question o”
“Will make a good debate question”
“ True o”
“At what point can a divorcee be said to be right?”
“ Should a godly lady settle for one?”
“ I didn't say once a person is divorced, they're no good, oh. But two times divorced is a red flag. And the person is still saying it's the other party's fault? No-go area oh”
“The main point of this sha - was relationship with the mother. If it's not healthy (including with the right boundaries), the man is not it”
“What does the Bible say about divorce?”
“The bible isn't complete on the subject of divorce”
“Sometimes, a marriage doesn't work out. It's life. But when the same person keeps jumping in and out, claiming to be the victim (meaning they didn't learn anything), they are the problem”
“There are certain things you can't clear the air on when it comes to human beings... I agree with your point, the Bible really isn't clear on divorce”
“Where is the God factor... I am referring to godly marriages breaking up. Are we not supposed to be led of the spirit before walking in?”
“A person who maltreats their mother is not godly abeg. And me, I'm more interested in how a person treats a person they can see. They shouldn't be forming "alliance with something they cannot even see”
“What is this God factor you're talking about, can enlighten me?”
Yes, any man that maltreat his mother is not godly I agree”
“I think the trap we fall into as believers is that we don't consider each situation as a unique one. We're looking for the "Almighty" formula for ALL marriages. When to stay and pray, separate or seek a divorce vary for each situation and it's unrealistic to have a clear path”
“The Bible is very clear on Divorce. Matt 19: 6 and 8. Also Malachi 2:16”
“That stance has got Christians in the place we're struggling to get out of.”
“Actually, no. The bible is not & has never been a complete document on marriage. It will never be”
“When God says he hates something, don't even consider it. HATE is a very strong and binding word.”
“And if I will put in my last word before I start sipping my juice, the word in Mal 2:16 was PUTTING AWAY.”
“The bible refers to "putting away"; "divorce" is a very soft word for what was going on, in the days that the bible was written. Try & read in context. And do a bit more research, too. The bible has LIMITED information; fact. For instance, did you know it was the culture of men putting women away after doing see-finish, that JEWISH LAW which is what Jesus quoted - was trying to address? Women in Jewish culture, even today, are considered less than animals. So, they couldn't file for divorce. There's a prayer that very traditional Jews make till today, translated into, "Thank you Lord that I'm not a slave, a eunuch or a woman"
“There are Biblical allowances for divorce. Divorce shouldn't be the FIRST option but sometimes, it's the only option...What should a woman whose husband served her divorce papers do?”
“Let's stop bringing put verses out of the Bible, read the whole chapter and understand what is being written… For me I say to each his own... If my sin is divorce, yours might be being judgemental or lying or extortion. The idea here is no human is perfect, yes, we seem to pick some human decision as bigger sins than some seeming small ones. One cannot be in a seeming perfect marriage and judge other people's decision in theirs.”
“God factor refers to praying before committing. If both parties were truly led by God into marriage...then when storm comes...you can take it back to Him who led you in. What we have these days are people rushing in without being led”
Divorce Discussions Part 2
Divorce Discussions Part 3
Divorce Discussions Part 4
Divorce Discussions Part 5
Divorce Discussions Part 6
Divorce Discussions Part 7
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