Good day.
We had a very interesting discussion on Deborah's Market Square about divorce last week. The discussion will be summarized in 7 parts. Please share your thoughts on any of the issues raised.
A sister shared about a twice divorced man who blamed his mother and all the women in his life for all his woes. And the divorce discussion started.
“If the man and woman play their God given role, and no one
is usurping the role of the other, I tell you, there won't be room for divorce.
That is for a godly marriage o. Then, any marriage that is not godly should
expect worldly result”
“I've met people who said they were led and are divorced...
And please don't say they weren't led.”
“That seemingly perfect marriage you talk about is not
actually perfect but they are working relentlessly to make it work. Do you know
how many times, pastors and their wives get divorced? My sister, na battles of
life o”
“As I sit here I know about 4 married men cheating on their wives
shamelessly and the wives preach about how perfect their marriages are. But no
be me go tell them pe, your husband is a cheating Mr Randy. And you should
protect yourself. I wish I could. For disease sake. My conclusion: that your
boat is rocking Now, don't mean it can crash... Life happens sometimes. Be
wise.”
“So many things happen in marriages that we don't pray for.
But wetin man go do? As for me, I pray and at the same time occupy my mind with
making the best of it”
“What is the
definition of "a godly marriage"?”
“That is another issue on its own...Are you obligated to
tell a person if their spouse is cheating, at least for disease sake....In my
opinion, there are things one can work around and there are things that are
deal breakers...”
“No be me go carry bad news go tell person”
“A godly marriage is
a marriage in accordance to the rules and ordinances of God. For the fact that
a wedding is conducted in the church does not mean it is godly. A lot of people
get married in the church and leave God right in the church, they don't go home
with HIM. So, where is GOD in their marriage?”
“So, what are these
rules and ordinances?”
“You know why we
Christians live in a limbo, religion because I never see any rules and
ordinances wey censor marriage”
“If one of them took God home and the other did not, what
does the partner that took God home do?”
“Even the people that claim to know GOD, send GOD on errands
when they start the marriage and when there is a bump, they start looking for
HIM”
“What exactly are the
rules & ordinances?” I assume - don't slap or cheat on your spouse - should
be on that list but people keep doing such, then demand the other party stay”
“What if two of them took God home... How do you know they
didn't take God home sef?”
“My sisters, God is the author of marriage. Eph 5: 21 down”
“There are things
outlined in Ephesians 5, Colossians 3 and another one I can't remember now. If
BOTH HUSBAND AND WIFE follow these guidances, life will be alright. When ONE of
them is doing as he/she pleases while expecting that other will listen to what
the Bible says, there are deep issues.”
“There rules and ordinances are scattered all over the books
of the Bible”
“No. There are atheists, agnostics, Hindus, traditionalists
that have good marriages - they don't refer to or care about Ephesians or any
other letter”
“Funny how we shy away from questions when it comes to the
Bible. I like to think that Christ today would not have minded questions, the
source irrespective. Marriage has principles - principles not subject to
religion. Whoever applies them would have a great marriage.”
“Yes I know,but is there any rule to how to react when your
husband is cheating on you. Or when you realise after being married for 10
years that he's an occultic man”
“Proverbs 6:26-29”
“There are people not of our faith who have fantastic
marriages. A good marriage is not an exclusive right of a Christian. It
involves both parties deciding to do the work the marriage requires. It's a
pity that no matter what some people for this our world no well and some people
have to marry them. Every marriage is unique, no two marriage wey be the same,
one shouldn't advise another based on their own marriage reality”
“God will judge the cheating men. As women, we must play our
own part.”
“What is the part of
the cheated spouse? Continue to have unprotected sex with a philanderer? Lock
up and continue to watch as he wastes your family resources on "strange
women"?”
“ Prov 5: 15 – 20”
Divorce Discussions Part 1
Divorce Discussions Part 3
Divorce Discussions Part 4
Divorce Discussions Part 5
Divorce Discussions Part 6
Divorce Discussions Part 7
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